These blog entries for the most part make available some intermediate or advanced level concepts for new couples therapists. They are...

I write this blog-essay after seeing that the New York Times has amplified some very cliched and unsupported advice for couples in...

Preface: This blog-essay is a first-pass response to some bad advice that we keep hearing out there. With regard to audience, it's...

Couples therapists are at their best when they take a binocular (double-lens) view of you as a couple during therapy. We need to look for...

I write these blogs mainly to help new couple therapists identify problems they can help their clients notice and understand. Some...

Note: I write these blogs as a consultant to therapists wanting to start working with couples. But there is also a take-away for couples...

Ruptures and repairs are made of the same things: interactional moves or their absence. ▾ A rupture is caused by any threat-raising move...

•Q: My boyfriend and I are writing you together. We get in fight after fight. Is fighting like cats and dogs a sign of incompatibility?...

• What couples remember as their first fight is the first time they got shaken out of the ceaseless protection from the world that their...

Dear Peter: Q: Call me Nora. When Sam (also a pseudonym) and I get started on something we disagree about, it starts ok, we seem to...

The body-mind is an alarm system. A couple must know what sets off each partner's alarm system, and what disarms it. If you or your...